I’m all for body acceptance. I believe that no one should ever be discriminated against, picked on or made fun of because of their weight. I think it’s great that people love their bodies at any size. I hate that larger society almost always equates being overweight with being unhealthy, and I am glad that there is research out there that debunks the whole BMI bullshit.
What I simply cannot stand, though, is the reverse discrimination that WLS patients get from other overweight/obese people. What the hell is up with that? I’ve read so many posts and articles about people preaching “fat-acceptance” and saying that their friends who’ve had gastric bypass were perfectly healthy before and it’s only post-op that they have their health issues. Really? Your friend went through the extensive screening process to get the gastric bypass surgery, the doctors saw that she was “perfectly healthy” and approved her for the surgery anyway? I’m sorry but that sounds like a load of crap. This surgery isn’t something that you can just “choose” to have done just because you “want to be thin.” No. This is something you actually need to qualify for. I know that I had to go through A LOT before I was ever approved to have this done. And, yes, there are people who have a lot of health issues after gastric bypass and there are a lot of risks involved but a lot of these problems afterward are easily prevented by practicing healthy habits. That’s something I’ve had to learn the hard way, so to speak. I am sick of overweight acquaintances making insensitive comments about what I can and cannot eat. “That’s why I’ll never have that surgery. I wanna enjoy my food.” Guess what? I enjoy my food, too. In fact, I enjoy food a lot more now than I did before I had the surgery. Since I can’t eat a lot of the crap I used to, I was forced to go out and try new food I would’ve never eaten before. And I love it! I’ve discovered there are so many things that taste good and are good for you! I just don’t understand why someone would try to put me down because I decided to try and change my life.
If you’re happy at your size, then that’s amazing! I salute you! Whether you’re thin, fat, in between, I encourage you to love your body! That’s exactly what I wanted to be able to do, only I did not feel good at over 300 lbs. Physically, emotionally, it felt all wrong for me. I had high blood pressure, my feet and legs would swell up at night so badly that if I pressed down on my shin, the indentation would stay there for minutes. I had borderline diabetes and PCOS. And if all the physical issues weren’t bad enough; I didn’t want to leave the house, be in any social situations, and I felt completely invisible to the world because of my size. I hated myself. After having my WLS, my whole life has changed. I was actually commenting on this to a friend the other day; this is the first time in my entire life where I’m confident with my body. I feel pretty. I feel sexy. And most important of all, I feel like me. This is the first time in a very long time that a glimpse of my naked body in the mirror doesn’t depress me to the point of tears. And my health is doing much better! I no longer have PCOS, my blood pressure is within the healthy range and I’m no longer a borderline diabetic. Why am I still trying to lose weight? Because as great as I feel right now, I’m still not at my “happy weight.” And, I’m trying to be healthier. It’s the same reason why I quit smoking, I want to be able to not only live longer, but really enjoy my life.
So, that’s what I have to say about acceptance today. It’s a bit ranty but this has been in my mind for quite a while. I’m just sick and tired of not only having to deal with people’s ignorant comments about the dangers of WLS and how it’s an easy way out; but now I have to get shit from other people who think I’m just “conforming to America’s version of beauty” because I lost 100+ lbs. I’ve never set out to be a size 0. That’s not what would be healthy for me. In fact, I’m trying to make peace with the scale lately, not make it all about numbers on a scale but about what feels right for me.
I’ll leave you all with this video I recently saw that totally touched me, and I think everyone should see it at least once: